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Children see into the future
by Wendi Friesen
A young boy I recently worked with,
11 years old, was having a very difficult time adjusting to school, the
rules, discipline and self control.
Giving him a constructive place to
vent his anger, forgive his abusers, and
release old memories helped tremendously.
I stumbled upon something in one of our sessions that I think was very
valuable.
I have a long roll of butcher paper
that I use when I need a really big piece of paper. When he saw the
roll standing on end in the corner of my
office he asked me what it was for.
(at that moment I didn't know what we
were going to do with it) I asked
him what he thought it was for.... and he
rolled it out across the floor of
my office. We now had a 20' long piece of
paper ready. I looked at it, and it
seemed obvious to me that it was a
timeline. I didn't tell him
that. So at one end we drew a sun. I said that
I thought the sun should come up at
the beginning of our adventure. It
should seem like a new day. At the
other end we drew the moon and stars, and the end of the journey. Then
I asked him to draw the road, or the timeline of his life from the sunny
beginning to the peaceful end.
Now the fun began. We marked
off the years, drew objects that represented events in his life, even those
old boulders and dirt from the first five years. We furiously drew the
dark and cloudy smear that represented the darkness in his past, and then
drew a new sunrise at the point where he was adopted. Who says you
cant have two sunrises in your life? We make the rules!
The most interesting thing, to me,
was how we could see the future right
there on paper. We placed events that
were about success, love, health,
babies, behavior, bedwetting, getting
old, having grandchildren, being
talented and recognized, etc.
For him to see a bright and exciting future
will give him the motivation to make
today better. It will also give him the ability to continue to put the
past in the past.
I think that this time line work with
children could be very valuable. As
adults we know the power of journaling
and how helpful it is to put our
emotions onto paper. For children
it is not as easy, since they don't have
the writing skills to express the
feelings. I suspect that the feelings are
very vivid for him in the colors and
heavy scribbles of the first few years. The mind now knows where
those feelings are (in the past) and what
they look like and how much better
it feels to look to the future than the
past. Also important is the perspective
it gives you when you see 19 feet
of paper of what lies ahead, in relation
to only one foot of paper that
represents the past.
Adults would probably enjoy a timeline
that can be seen and felt, worked on and updated creatively.
Wendi Friesen C.C.H.T.
www.wendi.com
Hypnotherapy and NLP
502 Natoma St
Folsom, Ca. 95630
916-933-0700
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